Every day on average four-five women ask for the help because of the domestic violence and the abuse in the South Kazakhstan.

According to the traditions and customs of the Kazakh people the relation to the woman was always brought up as to the mother, the wife, the friend. However, according to the reports of criminal and legal center organizations, there are absolutely other situations shown in a life of the ordinary Kazakh families. 

It only remains to forgive…

“… On December 23 I came home from the work approximately at 8 o'clock in the evening last year. And my husband, without any reason called me obscene words; beat and I with my three children were thrown out. Now I live in the house of my parents. Last three years my husband constantly beats me and banishes from the house…”

This line is from the treatment of 34 years old S.., citizen of Toleby region to the prosecutor of the South Kazakhstan.  

The prosecutor Berik Kultasov personally gave the task to the public prosecutor's office of Tolebiy region  to deal with the situation and to take measures. But after a couple of weeks… the applicant asked to close the case.

– “Application from C. had already been received before” –tell the staffs of public prosecutor's office of Tolebiy region and police. – In May of last year her husband appeared before the court under the administrative law – for the intentional infliction minor injury to health. However the suffered women – the spouse of the defendant – forgave him at the court. And she asked take no influence measures to him.

– Then the judge agreed with the woman and stopped judicial proceeding. “And now there is a new application …” – told the prosecutor's office.

However, what is there for surprise? Punishment for the pugnacious husband is a fine of 50 MCI (75,600 tenge). And he can’t find money anywhere, except of family budget. It turns out that in the families where only the woman earns money officially (the husband is interrupted by casual earnings), the fine has to be paid… by the wife!

As a result the woman is the victim twice. At first she is beaten by the husband, then by the state in means of her wallet. And instead of protection of the woman they receive a financial hole in their budget.

“You are my slave”

There are generally shocking cases. At the end of autumn of last year the staff of the South Kazakhstan NGO “Sana-Sezim” together with policemen practically by force released the 22-year-old girl from the house of her husband’s parents.

The story reminded the fairy tale about Cinderella – but in the opposite way:

The young girl married for love, with beautiful, tender and gentle guy. But after a marriage the situation changed dramatically. First her husband forbade her to have a baby. Then he introduced the categorical prohibition of communication with parents and relatives of her. He told his spouse that now she is his property and must be silent slave.

Half a year the young woman was kept in conditions of the real imprisonment in the house of husband’s parents, allowing neither to go out, nor to make a phone call.

Only by chance the young women managed from neighbor’s house to make a call to her mother and ask for a help.

Distracted mother hesitated for a long time to call police and she reported about the problem by phone to "the hot line” of "Sana-Sezim".

– Unfortunately, we have similar situations frequently; – says the psychologist of the legal center Vera Zakutnyaya. – We attracted the police officers, and it appeared very timely. The young woman had to  be  free really.

The husband, and also his parents are threatened by criminal case under very serious articles. However, both lawyers, and psychologists consider this case not as a criminal case, "slaveholding" as a tendency in family in general, as absolutely appalling  problems of elementary education.

To doom to the hunger is not godly

27-year-old citizen of Shymkent A. had a very specific problem. She also married for love, and they have   two minor children. But soon it appeared that her husband takes almost all earnings to donations in his religious association, leaving the family literally on bread and water.

What can be done? Psychologists of NGO "Sang-Sezim" work with a woman, increasing her self-appraisal, lawyers explained her legal aspects of a situation, and told how to make alimony on her very religious spouse. In an amicable way here is needed good will of the religious organization – who, except them, can explain to the diligent husband in belief that he make  his loved family  to starve? But this dialogue is impossible.…

From whom wait the help?

For the last year only by “the hot line” the center has received 1319 calls. From them 1278 calls were from the women who in some way had been abused physically and psychologically in own families. And the experience shows that the situation comes to a standstill. More often there is nobody to help for those women. They are only suffering more if they appeal to the social organizations and to the police. But to keep silent on what is happening behind the closed doors in some families, you can’t!